• lowleekun@ani.socialEnglish
    28·
    2 days ago

    Sad thing that if you grow up male (altleast in most western countries), you will be hard pressed to find friends to cuddle with. Fuck me i guess.

    • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.zipEnglish
      11·
      2 days ago

      When I was a kid in the 90s/00s, I was basically a shy nerdy (later to be determined as autistic) twink.

      Almost all my friends were girls, because… almost all the guys I knew were rude macho assholes.

      … I guess I am an outlier, possibly along with my friend group, but uh, I did get invited to, and attend, a good number of slumber/cuddle parties.

      I know this may sound unbelievable, but they really were just cuddling, no hardcore sexual acts.

      Well ok, one time a female friend of one of my female friends, who I hadn’t met before… we ended up making out and fondling each other, but our clothes stayed on, I swear!

      • gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        2·
        4 hours ago

        same so much rn omg i’m getting a heart attack >:3 🥲

        i don’t like to make this edit because i really really understand the vibe of your comment and want to go along with it; however i unfortunately have to report that the rampant levels of reporting about “sexual harassment” have led many girls my age when i was a teenager to basically have a deep hatred for all men, or so it seemed. i remember a few incidences where i clearly got along nicely with people but we couldn’t get closer because of some stupid societal rules that instruct women to be afraid of all men. stupid times we live in. (i’m saying this because these complaints should be heard. the fight that was superficially and supposedly about “women’s rights” has inflicted incredible damage on some things.)

      • lowleekun@ani.socialEnglish
        9·
        2 days ago

        I absolutely believe you as i had a rommie with which i cuddled. She told me that she is not attracted to me at all so there was no thoughts about romance or sex. I loved it and i miss it but i also have to admit that my very stupid brain would fall in love with any women (not related to me) that cuddles with me repeatedly.

        • Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
          5·
          2 days ago

          and this is why i consider a partner a prerequisite for a lot of my improved mental health, my lizard brain needs that… hole… filled before it can quiet down and let me get on with things.

  • yetAnotherUser@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
    15·
    2 days ago

    I genuinely think acquiring a mountain of plushies has improved my mental health. So humans aren’t necessarily required to get (some) results!

  • FundMECFS@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    182·
    2 days ago

    I love the cute vibe, but I feel the need to rant:

    “strengthens the immune system” doesn’t mean much. And if you take it at face value, it’s probably a bad thing, atleast in the West, more people suffer from overactive immune systems (allergies, autoimmune diseases) than underactive ones.

    • gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      1·
      4 hours ago

      while i get your complaint’s point, i think you’re a bit over-simplyfying this.

      the immune system isn’t just “weak” or “strong”. it must be calibrated.

      for example, allergies exist because the immune system focuses on the wrong things. A strong immune system can be considered healthy and a good thing; that doesn’t mean it should indiscriminately kill anything it encounters. So, the story is a bit more complicated.

      for example, it’s considered healthy for children to play in the dirt, because it teaches the immune system what to focus on.

    • i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      2·
      1 day ago

      It me.

      I do remember a friend’s mom. She had a lot of allergies and was big into woo-woo. Anyway, she once told me that she was doing something with her essential oils and orange juice “to boost her immune system and deal with her allergies.”

      • FundMECFS@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        3·
        1 day ago

        Whenever someone says “boost” or “strengthen” the immune system, its marketing BS.

        I don’t generally blame people for falling for it, because you even have medical professionals falling for it.