I think it’s ok to set boundaries. I don’t want my dog jumping up because she can accidentally scratch or knock over little kids or elderly people. Over time she has kind of learned to come for a side snuggle hug with nuzzling, which pretty much everyone appreciates.
Yeah I think the size of the dog matters a lot in this equation
Exactly, 90lbs of dog creates a lot of impact!
It all boils down to claws scratching skin and clothes.
Luckily my dog doesn’t wear clothes so it only comes down to claws.
My youngest dog actually learned to hug people it’s so funny and he is almost as tall as most people. He will hug me hello and goodbye.
Great Dane?
<3
“rub rub” intensifies
I love dogs that try to pet you back. Used to know one who would walk up, give you a swipe, and then flop down with his tongue hanging halfway to his ear because then it was his turn for scratches and belly rubs. Master manipulator.
I had a dog that wouldn’t pet you, she’d just walk up to you, sit, and put 1 paw on your knee and stair strat into your eyes.
I had a dog that was a cat. She wanted affection, but it had to be her idea. And ONLY her idea. She could be walking up to the couch to hop in your lap, and if you saw it and invited her up she’d turn around and walk away, because she did NOT answer to your commands.
But then you’d be watching the TV and notice that you were petting the dog, and have no idea when she’d snuck alongside you for her cuddling.
She also was super attached to her dog bed we’d made out of an old suitcase. She did whatever she could to stay in it.
My dog gives hugs. If you get down on your knee, or if he’s on the bed to be tall enough, he’ll wrap his paws around your shoulders and pull you in. If you hug him back he’ll just stand there hugging you.
One of my dogs gave hugs while you were standing. His head was a good bit above mine while doing so. He was a big boy. Loved him so much 💕
I’d like to sign up for a dog hug, please.
Sounds a little like he’s trying to bury a bone.
He’d have an erection if he wanted to.
Ask me how I know.
As long as your communication towards your dog is clear and consistent, they actually thrive with certain boundaries.
There’s no honest hug and kiss like you get from a friendly dog <3
If your dog keeps licking your leg after you worked out is that an honest or dishonest kiss?
Tasty leg
Salty
I think that’s called an obsession.
I really feel this. My job has me interacting with the public a lot, and sometimes they have dogs that want to come to me for pets or to say hi. I don’t always know if they are friendly and just have to position myself both to be attacked and to defend myself. It almost always leads to confused dogs. I’ll pet them a little, but won’t let them on me. Too risky in the places I work.
It is pretty great when I see camper and dogs again, and I know they are friendly, and the dogs seem to recognize me, and then we can dance haha.
I always put my hand down, palm up, for a unknown dog to sniff first. If a dog is not very nice, or maybe too anxious at the moment for petting, they’ll mostly ignore it.
That’s the same behaviour people with food use. So its not sniffing you, it’s sniffing for the missing treat.
Palm down.
Yeah, back of the hand is always what you give to an animal if you’re attempting to be friends
Ya, part of the reason palm down is important is that if a dog does bite, it is structurally easier for us to turn around and away. But at that point it’s just nasty stuff and nobody wants that. We want happy dogs! So far I’ve only been bitten twice and and no skin was broken (small dogs).
Most dogs associate the sensation of being pet with how their family licks them clean. The thought of using paws to return pets is unlikely.
If you want to break a dog’s habbit of jumping up, pawing at you, or getting overly excited at your return: ignore them. Do not pet them when you walk in the door. Do not give them any form of validation for several minutes, perhaps after they lay down.
If you want to break a dog’s habbit of jumping up, pawing at you, or getting overly excited at your return: ignore them. Do not pet them when you walk in the door. Do not give them any form of validation for several minutes, perhaps after they lay down.
Why is this advice upvoted? The only thing you create with ignoring is trust issues. If you want to break this habit, direct the energy to something else, like fetching a toy or another behaviour and reward it. Like you train anything else.
Why is this advice upvoted?
Confidence
This is vwry basic, tried and true, dog training exercise. Trust comes from protecting and feeding the animal, not from randon dopamine spikes.
This answer just shows that you need to update your knowledge about dog training and behaviour.
The release of dopamine in dogs during play, petting, or training reinforces positive behaviors. This reward mechanism helps dogs associate humans with safety, affection, and happiness, leading to better-behaved, more trusting pets. Over time, these interactions can create new neural pathways in a dog’s brain, reducing anxiety and promoting a sense of well-being.
Two key players in this process are the neurotransmitters dopamine and oxytocin, which are central to reward-motivated behavior and social bonding, respectively.
And ignoring your dog, when he shows affection, will have the exact opposite effect
https://dunedinamc.com/community/human-dog-relationships/ https://www.apeacefulpack.com/post/understanding-the-neurobiology-behind-dog-behavior-and-emotion-the-role-of-dopamine-and-oxytocin
You’re arguing with the established methods used to train dogs for centuries. Good luck with your dog training revolution.
What a dumb answer. Would you say the same when there’s new scientific evidence about cancer treatment?
But ok, you refuse to learn so I’m gonna stop arguing with you
Look, if we had a multiple millenia year old cure for cancer that the majority of doctors say works and I’ve seen work myself, then I would be skeptical of science saying it doesn’t.
Rather, you appear to me more akin to an anti-vaxxer that “did their research”.
My dogs are split, one doesn’t really jump up and we never had to train it out the other doesn’t jump up out of excitement but when he’s being affectionate and will often use my knee as a point to stretch from, it’s definitely part of his love language so I haven’t tried to teach him not to but I don’t think he’s “returning pets” either
you’re right though about nuisance jumping, fold your arms, turn away and simply say no then reinforce good behavior when you do get it.
I just checked, and I was already joined. But thank you for listing it like that with the ! at the beginning. Made double checking if I was joined super easy, barely an inconvenience. Just clicked the link, and there it was. Didn’t even need to use a keyboard or touch my balls or anything!
