Come into my house with shoes on and you’ll be lucky to leave alive

  • NottaLottaOcelot@lemmy.ca
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    24 minutes ago

    I must ask the shoes on people: at what point in the house do the shoes get removed?

    I’d expect that you wouldn’t want them in the bedroom or bathroom, getting gravel or dirt in bed. Is it that the main living room for entertaining guests is shoes on, and shoes off is for personal rooms? Or do you have a specific set of indoor shoes? Or do your outdoor shoes go everywhere?

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      16 minutes ago

      Shoes on everywhere, just not on the bed. If your shoes are so dirty that they leave dirt everywhere, you take them off. In the morning and evening it’s usually slippers that don’t leave the house

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      Spaniard here. “Shoes-on” is mostly for when you have guests over. You’ll wake up in the morning and use slippers, only put on shoes to go to outside, and when you come back home you’ll remove the shoes typically in your bedroom (unless wet or dirty). But when you have guests over, everyone wears shoes typically, even hosts.

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    37 minutes ago

    In The Netherlands, within my social circles, it’s mostly seen as overly informal and quite intimate to take off your shoes.

    You can do it at friends, but certainly not by default at acquaintances (unless they ask), as it might even be a little disrespectful considering taking off your shoes could smell a bit after some hours. Like you force your bodily odours or sweaty feet on to someone’s house.

    I totally get the opposite and am noticing a slow shift (also in my own house) to dropping the shoes. But it’s interesting to see that both stances are based on some form of respect, and perhaps also some pragmatism on our side.

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      27 minutes ago

      I would rather someone bring sweaty socks in to my house than dirt, microplastics, gum and literal shit on the bottom of their shoes.

      We went from a shoes on / dont care to a shoes off / dont you fucking dare household when we had a kid and the difference is unfathomable.

      It actually repulses me that I can walk around in houses people consider clean, with bare feet, and my soles turn black. Not to mention then dragging that in to bed with you.

  • NihilsineNefas@slrpnk.net
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    1 hour ago

    Uk definitely isn’t a “wearing shoes inside the house” country unless their house has floors so genuinely dirty that you’re better off not collecting detritus

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    3 hours ago

    As with most things. If America does it one way, then it’s probably the wrong way.

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    1 hour ago

    UK shoes on? Not a chance! I’ve never met a person who is a shoes on person. Unless you count indoor slippers as shoes…

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    2 hours ago

    Greetings from Australia; this is wrong. It’s likely off or mixed, based on heritage and cultural factors.

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    1 hour ago

    I want to get another map which includes rules for guests. In some countries it’s shoes off unless you’re a guest.

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        44 minutes ago

        Practically, there’s no way I’m gonna ask my old arthritic dad to take his shoes off when he comes into my house. Even though he somehow always has the muddiest shoes of anyone I know 😂

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          38 minutes ago

          Oh there are 100% exceptions. We live on a farm so sometimes if we haven’t cleaned yet we don’t care. If you’re just popping in or grabbing a beer don’t bother. You’re here to spend some time in the house? Take them off.

  • CircaV@lemmy.ca
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    4 hours ago

    UK is shoes ON. Canada definitely shoes OFF. US is shoes ON, drives me nuts seeing tv show characters hop on the BED with shoes on. 😡😡😡

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        2 hours ago

        With you on this, only ever known shoes off bar the odd occasion where I’m there for work and will only be a few minutes. I ask of course before traipsing around!

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        19 minutes ago

        I used to believe art could be used to gaze into the zeitgeist of their production times.

        Then I realized what you have just said. If someone in the future looks at hollywood productions, they’ll have very wrong ideas about how people live nowadays. Like, it will be comically wrong. You could throw a dice to select a verb from a dictionary and you’d be more correct.

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    4 hours ago

    I am Australian and we are a shoes off household - don’t care if you wanna have shoes on in the house but why would you wanna wear shoes in the house?

    We barely wear shoes in public let alone in the house - shoes are just foot prisons, barefoot is best

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      2 hours ago

      I appreciate you not wearing shoes but please put on the house slippers. Also please switch from house slippers to toilet slippers, and switch to the garden slippers when you go into the garden. Please make sure to not mix up the slippers, it will upset my family.

  • save_the_humans@leminal.space
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    3 hours ago

    Most people in the states can barely reach their feet. They have a special bench in their house for putting their shoes on, but they have to make sure they do a proper warmup routine, chair yoga, before else they’ll pull something. Putting their shoes on is like the most exercise they’ll ever get in a day. Too stubborn to admit they need their own handicap parking permit after they stole the one they use from their aging mothers. They take an ultralight backpacking camp chair for the two story elevator ride at work. They can’t be expected to take off their shoes until they have to take their once weekly shower.

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    5 hours ago

    The Netherlands look red but it’s definitely a shoes on country. People find me weird for asking them to take off their shoes. Any idea how nasty the roads are? Any idea how easier it is to clean your floors when you don’t bring all the nastiness from outside under your shoes? Plus it’s much better not to wear shoes in general, for your feet. That’s why I wear barefoot shoes outside and nothing inside. Because outside is naaaasty. Otherwise I would be barefoot everywhere.

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      2 hours ago

      I think Netherlands is more mixed nowadays than a hard shoes on culture. Like people keep their shoes on if they have visitors over like a party and they don’t ask their visitors to take them off. But when they are home alone it’s shoes off or slippers. Like many people have underfloor heating so there is no need to keep the shoes on.

      Though I know some freaks who don’t take off their shoes until they go to bed.

    • DefederateLemmyMl@feddit.nl
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      3 hours ago

      I’m Dutch speaking Belgian, so culturally similar I guess…

      I generally don’t wear my shoes at home, and I don’t know anybody who does, but it is considered weird to ask guests who are not staying over to take their shoes off, and it would be considered weird to voluntarily take your own shoes off in someone else’s home. It is more a question of intimacy and is considered getting too familiar. So unless you’re really familiar with each other, or you’re staying over long term or something, guests keep their shoes on.

      In practice, I take my shoes off when I’m at my parents’ home, or at my girlfriend’s place, everywhere else they stay on, even at friends’ places.