wb violet we missed you
Wh… Yes? What do other people do at 3am?
Play rimworld, mostly.
Rimming, hm.
Okay yes.
Sometimes Factorio.
Disgusting. You know you’re kind of the bad guy in that, right?
Hey man, I just want more iron plates. It’s not my fault the bugs decided to live on top of the iron ore!
Factorio is basically just role-playing as the US: You land on a planet and liberate the oil from the natives.
But I also like Dungeon Keeper or Rimworld where you can actually play as a genuinely evil god.
There is nothing wrong with being evil in a video game. Sometimes it just feels good to be bad.
“He’s using you for your body.”
And I’m using him for his.
god forbid people gasp enjoy sex
everytime you have sex and enjoy it, jesus cries (/s)
god made you, body and soul, but he made you mostly to suffer against your own nature, because god is a masochist or sth (/s)
no but seriously. i can’t think of a more detrimental effect on our people than the mindset of the church of england.
OP is only recently 18. Sexual partner is over 50. It’s not 100% sunshine and roses.
that’s two consenting adults enjoying each others’ company. the sunshine and roses level isn’t really anyone’s business but theirs
Gives me the ick. Serious Trump vibes.
The whole “daddy, please tell the bodyguards to bonk me, they’re refusing because they think you’ll sack them!” thing and the “daddy please can I bonk one of your middle aged chums?” stuff is all more than weird to me.
She comes across as happy and knowing exactly what she wants, so that’s a positive, but I think her dad has a very weak ‘no’ game and has had for years and years. Not everything that we want at 18 is good for us. Only a handful of months ago she was a literal child.
the thing is you gotta draw the adulthood line somewhere and just let young adults have sexual autonomy
OP may or may not be having a healthy relationship that they may or may not regret later but they’re well within their right to point out that that’s nobody’s business but their own and they shouldn’t be getting unsolicited judgment for it
My opinion is that posting anything publicly enough that I hear about it is at the very least a de facto invitation for my opinion on it. That would be different if it were e.g. paparazzi reporting on the potentially private affairs of the wealthy and famous.
Yeah, I get all that. But, did you ever install a Linux ISO at 3am with a friend (or more)?! That’s better than sex!
Especially after chasing down that display driver issue in the wee hours of the morning. Light that cigarette
Hey, nice to see you back on Lemmy!
Would you like to?
Or maybe we can talk about Battletech and great naval battles throughout history? Maybe trains?
When he is done and starts playing video games at 3 am, you gonna be good with it?
Perhaps inverting all elements of this…
So, I finally made a fetlife account. I’m roughly 35, M.
Looking through people in my area.
See a fairly wide range of people, but notice that… a fair number of accounts are seemingly obviously lying about their age. In either direction, sometimes.
Follow a few accounts.
Surprisingly, one follows me back within like an hour or two … long story short, this woman has a fantastic body, but claims she’s 55. Isn’t showing her face on her profile, totally makes sense as a privacy measure, also leads me to think its more likely she’s listing a fake age, as another privacy measure.
I say hello type words, including basically ‘theres no way you’re 55 right? you look to be 15 years younger.’
Fucking nope, nope I am wrong, she actually is 55, and is just in incredible shape.
So I guess now I am entirely unintentionally into MILFs. Still think she looks great!
Did you also notice how many people are from Antarctica and 99yrs old? So far as the “no face pic” I would bet she has a lot of hidden - for friends only - pics that will have her face.
For whatever reason, at least in my area, no, people don’t seem to do that. I haven’t seen a one that used that kind of anonymization.
at least in my area, no, people don’t seem to do that
I guess you’re not on Antarctica then :p
It was fairly common in my area, and was a running joke. Just search Antarctica you will see a lot of people there, the people I knew were forthcoming in person it was just to stop random people messaging them
Yeah, I’ve seen a fair number of people do that or similar on Steam accounts, but… yeah at least so far on fetlife, haven’t seen that.
Why would a 40 year old lie about being 55? What a strange accusation hahah
I’d believe people are lying about being older if they’re really young on dating apps.
I mistyped, I meant to write 25 years younger.
But why would somebody lie from roughly 30 to present as 55?
Well really, the pattern that I thought I’d noticed was that people would just bullshit their age by a round number, 5, 10, 20, etc years, in any direction.
An obfuscation/privacy tactic more so than like, a catfishing tactic.
The other thing at play here is that … I was genuinely baffled, in disbelief.
I literally have never seen a 55 yo woman in as good of shape as she is, she’s in better shape than most women I’ve known who actually are in the age bracket I thought she was in.
I literally have never seen a 55 yo woman in as good of shape as she is, she’s in better shape than most women I’ve known who actually are in the age bracket I thought she was in.
Sigh.
???
Is… is this a problem for you, in some way?
That I have a body type preference, on a website explicitly designed for people to seek out specific consensual sexual experiences?
You’ve literally never seen a 55 year old woman in shape? I don’t believe you.
Look up a list of celebrity women who are currently 55 years old.
This idea that women are decrepit and ugly and old at 55 is asinine.
Edit: Y’all really going to believe that women like Salma Hayek and Cate Blanchett don’t exist?
Not in person, not in real life, not ‘in my local area and looking to mingle’, no.
I don’t regularly… go to gyms where 55 yo women are, and … I think all of my intimate partners have been within a max of +/- 3 years of my own age.
I’m not trying to nor did I say that all older women are decrepit and ugly.
I’m saying that generally speaking, women (as well as men), kinda tend to let themselves go a bit, as they get older… and honestly there is nothing wrong with that, that is completely normal. Getting old hurts, it makes staying in shape hard… it would be ridiculous to have basically the same general physique expectations for both a 30 yo and a 55 yo woman, or man.
What is very not normal is to actually encounter a 55 yo women in approximately similar physique condition as ~55 yo Selma Hayek or Cate Blanchette.
It is so not normal to me, that I literally didn’t believe it.
The internet and celebrities != real life.
55 years old isn’t really that old though.
You don’t notice women in their 50s in your day to day life at all? They’re all fat or otherwise disabled?
Like no, this is still mind blowing to me that a single 55 year old woman in shape left you “genuinely baffled and in disbelief”
honestly it’s more disingenuous and sexist to pretend that every 55 year old woman looks like Salma Hayek and Cate Blanchett, velma
The other thing at play here is that … I was genuinely baffled, in disbelief.
I literally have never seen a 55 yo woman in as good of shape as she is, she’s in better shape than most women I’ve known who actually are in the age bracket I thought she was in.
I’m responding to the assertion that a 55 year old woman in shape is enough to leave someone baffled and in disbelief because they’ve literally never seen a 55yo woman in as good of shape
I’m not saying every 55yo woman looks like Salma Hayek, but by existing they are disproving this original comment.
It’s funny, because you can just go to the gym and meet people who are both old and in shape. In fact, you’re more likely to meet people who are both old and in shape at the gym because… older people who are in shape are the ones who go to the gym in the first place.
I’m not single
or 55
but if I were single at any age, I would never approach a woman at a gym. Idk. Feels only a small step better than approaching them at work. “Captive audience” type shit, it would feel gross to me.
Exactly.
Literally one can go to the grocery store and find a woman who is over 50 and in shape. I would bet money.
Why would a 40 year old lie about being 55?
So, on Tinder at least, there’s something I read about people under 40 being sorted and matched differently than people over 40. The end result being folks in higher tiers of service getting access to younger matches. But because it’s a semi-known exploit, you end up with people lying about their age to manipulate the match set.
You also get a weird phenomenon such that you see the same list of people showing up over and over again on your feed, until you cross the dateline and suddenly they all vanish.
Yeah I’ve heard of that. Usually it’s a person in their 20s that wants access to older people though, not 40 year olds trying to trick 55 year olds.
Why not both?
seriously if i can’t discuss geopolitical economics with a lover, why am i loving them?
well it’s nice to know every time i have a good idea for a short everyone’s already done it and done it better, so just stay out of the film industry i’m better as a cameraman than a director :3
Never fear, everything’s been done in one form or another. Just got to give it your own little spin and it’s all good!
No i mean like that was the scene i had in mind and everything, i just am not good with the communist lingo. it cracks me up
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If it was just about a cute body, people would just get Realdolls with warming coils. Some people are satisfied by that, sure, but not many.
What most of us like is a body animated by a vivacious and interesting intelligence of some kind.
And here’s the fun part: the more interesting the spooky animating ghost intelligence, the less cute the body needs to be.
My partner’s butt is, shape wise, probably pretty similar to many others. But when I squeeze it in a certain way, and it moves lithely in my hands like a big old disco cat… It’s genuinely the best butt in my universe.
If you think any kind of sex doll is in the same universe as even the dumbest most uninteresting person, you do not fuck.
wasn’t that his exact point lol
Even if it’s strictly sex, sex with a real human being is leagues different than sex with 40 lbs of heated silicone
why are u assuming gender
They guessed right, and if there’s no info to go on, I’m okay with picking one and correcting course if required. I don’t know if being butt-obsessed is a male thing particularly, butt…
You do know in a significant number of languages in this world when gender is unknown the masculine form is used… Some languages, for example Spanish, would even use a masculine form for when the gender is known and a group includes both boys and girls. For example Tengo tres ninos… That sentence could mean I have three boys but it also could mean I have three kids of which some might be female.
So stop trying to be provocative… You’re bad at it
im not trying to be provocative im trying to be progressive
this is english: we have gender neutral terms, which should for many reasons be used
many people (including myself) find misgendering to be offensive, and many people (including myself) find complicity in the patriarchy offensive
and also in those other languages people and organizations still often favour gender neutral language; in spanish the forms -e or -i or -x or -@ are somewhat common, i see signage using -x or -e, and spam texts sometimes use -@
and also, why would you not adjust? saying “they” won’t hurt you
Intentionally misgendering is offensive, but that’s not what happened here, in my opinion. There’s nothing in their profile so sure going neutral with they/them is probably a safer option, but defaulting to male pronouns (which traditionally are all encompassing) is also fine, IMO. If they had a preference that they cared about then they would specify it.
but defaulting to male pronouns (which traditionally are all encompassing) is also fine, IMO
And @thethunderwolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com doesn’t find the assumption that everyone is male, if not stated, fine.
This comment sounds monolingual anglophone
I’m getting to the point my tastes are… inverting. Younger men looking better and better these days since older men for me is now actually old men lol
Huh. I have always liked guys my age, whatever that age is, and always for some reason have been pursued only by guys my age or younger (defining “my age” as a few years in either direction). Will need to see if that holds, but I didn’t expect it to still be true at this age so maybe.
Looks wise yeah I think more younger guys look better but OMG when I see a fit guy my age, that strikes me much more.
I actually thought about this. I don’t think when I’m 50 I’ll be into older men anymore, since what I consider “older men” now would either be around my age or just old-old men, lmao.
No matter how old you get, 20 year olds stay the same age.
Alright alright alright
As someone who has aged, I gotta disagree.
In high school, 20 year olds were ancient and wise.
In college, 20 year olds became peers and competitors
Once I started working, 20 year olds were the newbies
Now 20 year olds are indistinguishable from babies. Just having a conversation that ends with “After this we’re going to the bar, you want to come?” and getting told “Uh… I’m not quite old enough to drink” blows my mind every time I hear it.
”After this we’re going to the bar, you want to come?" and getting told “Uh… I’m not quite old enough to drink” blows my mind every time I hear it.
Wait till you reach the point where it reverses and the 20-30 year olds are the ones asking and you have to decline.
Oh sure. That’s just called “having kids” and I’m firmly in that stage.
Brian! Get away from the bowling alley
Unless you digivolve into a grandaddy fantasy
I think the technical term is grave robbing, as opposed to cradle robbing.
Isn’t that only if you marry them for their money?
Not necessarily. I knew an extremely attractive young woman in her 20s who nicknamed herself the “crypt-creeper”, because well… that what she liked.
No reason to marsh others mellow.
Some yums can be pretty yuck though.
Then don’t eat it.
Can confirm
do you think I went to his place at 3am to discuss the economical and political state of the world?
If it was my place then the answer would at least partially be yes.Me too, we’re lame
the econ department i went to had the best fundraising t-shirts:
[blank] department of economics
we don’t wonder why we don’t get invited to parties
we know
I just enjoy some good mouth on me
